Thursday, June 17, 2010

First Visitors, Sigh.

We're having our first visitors haul in tomorrow. I say first despite the fact that my cousin, parents, and brothers have come through and been with me on and off since Sunflower was born. My family came and took care of us. They swept up, got groceries for us, cooked, and pretty much helped keep the house running and my sanity intact. When they were coming I felt relief, not stress because I knew that a messy house would not offend them and they would not be offended by frozen pizza and canned soup.

Tomorrow however we are having visitors. My in-laws. I am organizing, cleaning and dusting. It will not be perfect, this house. I'm accepting that my bedroom will remain in a post-hurricane like state and the fridge while devoid of moldy foods will not be sparkly as it normally is. Basically, I'm making sure the toilets, towels, and sheets are cleaned and beyond that I can only do my best. [I'm shocked at even say this since in-law visits usually spark level three panic in me causing me to run around searching for dust behind the fridge and under the oven]

I hear Jack on the phone right now and the first question MIL asked was what have you guys cooked for the weekend? Sigh. While I am capable of making food and have cooked since he's arrived, the prospect of planning out breakfasts, lunches and dinners from Friday to Monday makes me kind of woozy. Granted, MIL will likely cook some stuff once she sees the pizza delivery guy for the second time but its still weight on my shoulders. I feel so selfish and like a bad daughter-in-law saying that, he is after all six weeks, not one week old. At some point I do have to start doing more than just getting by- just wish it was on my own terms.

13 comments:

  1. ha, what is this "cooking" that you speak of?

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  2. Yeah but still..you shouldn't be expected to cook all day long for said visitors. Order out as much as you can and do lots of finger foods...donuts are finger foods ;)

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  3. ugh... I'm sorry- I know that the relationship is strained, and that never helps. I say pizza for dinner, cold pizza for breakfast, and pb&J's ! :)

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  4. Ah those kinda "visitors". Hmmm. I'd be serving burgers - the make your own type. Sandwiches - the make your own kind. And cereal - the pour your own kind ;) You have a 6 week old baby. You have better things to do than wait on others (except of course, 1 other!).

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  5. I still do nothing. Maybe MIL can cook if she's so worried about the food!

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  6. Oh, dear, my thoughts are with you...
    I am having a bit of a MIL meltdown right now, so I perfectly understand you.
    And, from what I hear, just wait until you get your first comments about the baby told to your face. And you have no buffer, since it's in your face.
    Courage, my friend. Lots and lots of it. And remember - YOU are the mum now, so you hold the absolute truth. ;-)

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  7. my in laws are coming this weekend too....only i actually invited them on purpose to surprise my huz!! crazy hey?!

    6 weeks old and life is still VERY crazy...of course you dont want to nor have the energy to cook and do a major cleaning overhaul. glad youre giving yourself a break...

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  8. This could have been my post after the twins arrived! My ILs send me into a state of stressed out panic too... don't worry, it will all be over soon!

    I had to learn to just "let it go"... you should check my archive posts around March...I was freaking out!

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  9. unreal. My position on this is that no one should come to a house with kids expecting to be waited on until those kids are old enough to make their own beds and help with the waiting-on of the guests by, say, being upright and being able to carry a plate of crackers. Not that I'm into child servitude, just that that's the benchmark I'm going on. If you're visiting a couple with totally dependent kids, and it was YOUR idea to visit, might as well byo-mop. ESPECIALLY if you're family. Cause that's the only decent thing to do. Hopefully they will surprise you and help out a bit, it will apaul me if they don't. Good luck!

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  10. Ew - "What have you cooked for this weekend?" *insert eye roll* She should just be thankful you're even feeding her. If she wants food that badly she should be expected to cook it her dang self!

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  11. OMG are you kidding me???? My sister in law STILL brings food over and the kiddos are almost 3.5 months old!! I ate two hot dogs last night, the night before we had pizza delivery! If anyone expects more than that, shame on them - do not stress yourself out over it - I wish I was there to tell them to cook you a week's worth of food!!!

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  12. ah yes, lansing, well, lansing has it's perks to, mainly that it's a university town and university towns are almost always more fun and interesting than non-university towns, but, lansing is smack dab in the middle of the state, no beaches for 90 miles or so. this is where we live...

    http://weblogs.wxmi.com/news/weather/weather-connection/SunsetGH_JakeMellema_Trufant.jpg

    http://image38.webshots.com/39/3/62/17/274436217SKTLBt_fs.jpg

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  13. I would think anyone coming to visit because of a new baby would expect a lot less than usual. In fact, visitors coming to see a new baby should be coming in as much to help as anything. Have to say that in terms of my in-law's I am lucky in that regard. Granted, being the anti-social misfit that I am, the idea of having anyone stay with us even for one night...anxiety off the charts!

    Hope it all works out much better than you expect. And don't worry about them. They can just be big about it and get over it. :)

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