tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post324544696299177199..comments2023-04-05T03:02:19.912-07:00Comments on Raising Sunflower: My grandmother, the hot potatoKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679737244351418531noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-17198284873542195132010-02-17T11:31:43.436-08:002010-02-17T11:31:43.436-08:00sadness...your compassion for your grandmother who...sadness...your compassion for your grandmother who treated you and others so cruelly says so much about the person and mother you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-34513111321926682272010-02-16T14:16:34.352-08:002010-02-16T14:16:34.352-08:00I'm so sorry, it's horrible to think about...I'm so sorry, it's horrible to think about that. We live in a similar situation, where my grandfather has burned just about every bridge he has... I just got off the phone with my Dad, and said, I'm glad we are never going to be like that! I'll microwave your meals for you! He laughed and said he was glad. However, just like you said, you will never be a parent like she was, just like my father was a million times more of a father than his ever was. Good luck, its such a hard situation to have to deal with.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05749642916899596407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-46274230421786082182010-02-16T09:38:02.955-08:002010-02-16T09:38:02.955-08:00What a story. I'm glad your Dad is a bigger pe...What a story. I'm glad your Dad is a bigger person than his siblings, and that you've obviously recognized how not to parent. Hope he manages to escape as planned on Friday.<br />Sunflower will be lucky to have the parents he does and no poisonous great-grandmother in his life.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15805727250430361509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-70510633554768344152010-02-16T09:20:30.922-08:002010-02-16T09:20:30.922-08:00That's really sad. I've become more sympa...That's really sad. I've become more sympathetic the older I've gotten too. I think it's the age-old golden rule thing - no matter how awful they are, their situation can't help but remind us that we too will grow old and need help. So those of us with a conscience tend to internalize and can't stand by and do nothing. Others of us, however...I can't believe how her other kids are treating her. I think there's a lot to be said for knowing how you don't want your life to be. Your sunflower's life will be better off for the effort your father is putting in now (and likely has throughout his life) because of the lessons being handed down and the influence of such a great person.Astridhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15910745805460514947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-18654122484082991292010-02-16T08:58:32.473-08:002010-02-16T08:58:32.473-08:00Oh how sad. I'm sorry your dad has to deal wi...Oh how sad. I'm sorry your dad has to deal with this. I'm sorry your grandmother was the way she was. I admit I'm pretty quick to walk away from people who I think treat me poorly. But I hope that I still have my limits.Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-58825427270965772842010-02-16T01:41:35.225-08:002010-02-16T01:41:35.225-08:00How sad...I hope that your father will be able to ...How sad...I hope that your father will be able to do what he needs to do and that he makes it back safely. Some of my family members are similar to your grandmother - I too hope my children do not have to know such ugliness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-38746618104051326072010-02-15T21:53:21.484-08:002010-02-15T21:53:21.484-08:00Wow, what an important lesson. The story of your g...Wow, what an important lesson. The story of your grandmother is the opposite of mine. She passed with her two daughters at her side and visits from her grandchildren. It's hard to imagine having 6 children and only one responding to your need. <br /><br />The problem is that it's your father who is being punished for his mother's bad behavior.Jemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480192191711301637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-37205310443743838092010-02-15T18:46:49.888-08:002010-02-15T18:46:49.888-08:00that is sad, my grandmother was a fairly unpleasan...that is sad, my grandmother was a fairly unpleasant woman as well, but lucky for her her children didn't abandon her, actually it was my mother who really took care of her at the end, she died of cirrhosis of the liver. i'm sorry to hear your father has to travel to another country to care for her, i hope he is able to get back home soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-32285040060745802542010-02-15T18:45:52.195-08:002010-02-15T18:45:52.195-08:00This one of those things I wish so many of us didn...This one of those things I wish so many of us didn't have in common. Trust me, I feel you. And unfortunately, I believe I understand your father's position all too well. When my mother goes, I will take care of her because it's what I'm supposed to do, not because I want to, not because I love her, but because no one else will and it will need to be done. Having bad parents is a horrible hand to be dealt. <br /><br />Lucky for you, it sounds as though your father was not the kind of parent your grandmother likely was. And because you've seen the good in your father and the bad in your grandmother, and just because of who you are, you will be a wonderful parent. And you won't have to worry about your son abandoning you in your final moments, or him helping only out of a sense of duty. He'll be there because he loves you. :)Myndihttp://tenaciouslyttc.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749404111767311785.post-91600529384765891812010-02-15T18:26:17.285-08:002010-02-15T18:26:17.285-08:00When you do become a mother, it will be even harde...When you do become a mother, it will be even harder to imagine how she could treat her own children that way. Fortunately, your son will know nothing like that.<br /><br />I'm sorry your dad is the only one to put hurt aside to help her.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964875388384777306noreply@blogger.com